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What NOT to Donate to the Food Bank

What not to donate to the food bank

When my son was little, we passed the time on car rides by playing little games. One of his favorites was called, “You can’t eat that!” We would take turns naming things that you cannot eat, and then we would giggle about the silly notion of eating things like crayons, cars, and zombies with flamethrowers. Obviously I have only myself to blame for the sarcastic funny man my son has become. We’re like mediocre improv comics, or really bad Family Feud contestants (except we’re doing it on purpose. Seriously, click HERE for a YouTube video of some of the worst Family Food answers ever. Fair warning, it’s PG-13, so preview before you decide about showing it to the kids.)

In that spirit, we bring you first the funny and then the real
What Not to Donate to the Food Bank:

A piñata full of canned goods (ouch…)
Little refill packets for your E-Z-Bake Oven
Canned giraffe meat from your cousin the poacher
Plastic toy groceries from the kids’ play kitchen
Lotto tickets (unless it’s a big winner. No one would turn that down…)
Neked Grandma (if you watched the link above, you’ll get it)

Random items that no one in their right mind knows what to do with: You’re feeding the hungry, not cleaning out your fridge. Most food shelves have a set assortment that they give to each person who comes to them (cereal, canned fruit/veggies, dinner mix, etc.). Your random jar of pickled pig’s feet gets tossed in a bin of extras they can pick through, and most likely ends up in the dumpster when it expires, unclaimed. I understand that giving away what you can’t or won’t use is better than throwing it out, and someone out there may like pickled pig’s feet and be grateful for them. I’m not saying you should only stick to the stuff on the MOST WANTED LIST, but there is something condescending about using the food shelf as your trash can, giving only the junk you don’t want. Loving the hungry is about being thoughtful and intentional, not about brushing off your crumbs on the “little people.”

Expired food items: Yes, canned goods are “non-perishable.” No, they’re not really eternal. Many canned foods have an expiration date and past that date their safety and flavor may be compromised. Food banks cannot hand out expired food, and furthermore they have to pay someone (if they don’t have volunteers on the job) to sort through donations, checking expiration dates, shelving the useful, and disposing of the expired or damaged items. The human resource is an expensive one, don’t waste it.

*Also, understand the difference between a sell by or best by date and an expiration date. Manufacturers put the sell by/best by date on goods for the stores’ inventory process (and as a bonus to their sales numbers, it tricks many of us into throwing away perfectly good items and then repurchasing them.). The expiration date is a safety issue. Botulism is a potentially life-threatening, tasteless, odorless toxin that can grow in canned goods and isn’t killed by cooking the food. It’s not something to mess around with.

Home canned goods: Food shelves don’t accept home canned goods for the same reason they don’t take expired items – they just don’t know about the quality and safety. Home canned items don’t have an expiration date, they’re not labeled for nutrition and ingredients (read: possible allergens), and they’re easily contaminated by preparation in the same kitchen where you cook with flour, soy, nuts, and other common allergens that, even in tiny amounts, cling to jars from the same kitchen. If you garden and can like I do, use your bounty to cut your own grocery bill, freeing up money you can donate to the food shelf. If you have a bumper crop, share the wealth with family, friends, and neighbors. Offer them a jar of your spectacular preserves in exchange for a non-perishable item for the food shelf.

*Likewise, food shelves can’t take items without their labels. They need to know what’s in that can and when it expires. They also cannot accept cans that are significantly damaged. A dent, sure, but open packaging and cans with busted seams have to be tossed.

Over-the-counter (or prescription) medications: Food shelves are simply not equipped to deal with this sort of thing. Plus, some over-the-counter meds are ingredients in meth, so having them around is an added security issue for the food bank (that’s why some things are locked up at the pharmacy or stored behind the counter). There are other non-food items that many food shelves will accept such as diapers, baby wipes, feminine hygiene products, and personal hygiene items like soap and deodorant.

I am thankful for each and every person who gives from their comfort or their poverty to help another. From a dented can of corn to a million dollar check, every single gift is precious in God’s eyes and important in the fight against hunger. The point of this post is not to put a damper on anyone’s giving, but just to give you information on what to expect and why some gifts have to be turned down. It’s not that they’re ungrateful; the food banks’ policies and procedures are in place to protect them and their clients. When in doubt, ask. Food shelves are happy to answer your questions about donations.

Meal Ministry: How to BLESS not STRESS

Meal Ministry

Food doesn’t just meet our physical need for energy and nutrients; it’s also a source of comfort. That’s why there is something so powerful and community-building about meal ministry. When someone is ill, has a new baby, or experiences a loss, friends who show up to nurture and comfort the family with wholesome and delicious meals go a long way toward reducing stress. On the flip side, a friend who shows up unexpectedly with mystery foods the family can’t eat and who expects her dishes to be washed and returned right away actually increase stress! Keeping your friend’s needs in mind and having a humble attitude of service will steer you clear of most blunders. Here are a few simple things to avoid.

  1. Don’t Go At It Alone: Chances are if a friend is in a situation where meals would be a blessing, you’re not the only one who is bringing in food. Find out if a friend, family member, or someone at church is coordinating the meal ministry and get in contact with that person to sign up for a day when food is needed, get the info on any food preferences or allergies, get the address and directions, etc. That way your friend can relax and recover without the phone ringing off the hook, and she doesn’t have to worry about duplicate meals, giving directions, or getting conflicting information from different sources.
  2. Know Your Audience: When you get in touch with the person coordinating meals, or if you are the one doing the coordinating, find out what the family’s food preferences and food allergies are. If someone is vegetarian, gluten intolerant, or allergic to something, you need to provide a meal that won’t increase the suffering! Likewise, be sensitive to the issues created by the condition that drove the meal ministry. A new mom trying to nurse can’t eat a lot of garlic or gas-inducing veggies like broccoli. Someone dealing with stomach problems won’t be able to eat spicy or acidic things. If you know what your friend is dealing with, a quick internet search will give you advice on foods to avoid for her condition. Also, know what time your friend serves dinner. A family used to eating at 5:00 will not be very relaxed trying to placate fussy kids until dinner shows up at 8:00. You eat dinner whenever you like, but meal ministry is about blessing someone else, not about putting them on your schedule.
  3. No Surprises: I love sneaking extra veggies into my son’s food, and my own for that matter. Tiny cubes of squash soften beautifully in chili and no one knows the difference. It’s the only way I can get my husband or son to eat the stuff. But a meal ministry meal is not the place for sneaky veggies, mystery ingredients, and family secret recipes. Provide the recipe with each item you bring, and stick to what you put on the card. Your friend and her family will know exactly what they’re getting, and they can make it again another day. Obviously they’re going to love it and want the recipe anyway, right? I still make homemade chicken potpie from the recipe a friend brought for dinner when our son was born fourteen years ago.
  4. Keep It Simple: Elaborate dishes don’t travel well, and when you’re not feeling well, you just want the familiar and comfortable anyway. I had a friend thoughtfully bring me a casserole once that was a new recipe she was trying on us for the first time. Unfortunately she thought the word “clove” meant the entire head of garlic. I couldn’t eat garlic, so I couldn’t have any, and my house stunk for a week. Stick to things you know you make well. Someone coming home from hospitalization won’t care that it’s simple; she is just going to be thrilled to eat something that isn’t hospital food… Save your tricky, fancy dishes for when your friend is feeling better, then have her over for a celebration dinner! Likewise, while disposable bakeware isn’t the best for the environment, it is the best for ministry meals. Your friend can wash and reuse it herself or she can toss it. It’s a lot less work than scrubbing all the pans and keeping track of who to return them to. Remember that your goal is to help your friend relax and recover, not to give her more chores!
  5. If All Else Fails: Pizza delivery and restaurant gift cards are perfectly valid ways to bless a friend in need. This is especially true if you live too far away to deliver a homemade meal, when your schedule doesn’t match up to the meal delivery rotation, or in situations where a family member is hospitalized for a while. When my nephew was born prematurely and 300 miles away, I used Google Maps to find out what restaurants were near the hospital where he spent his first weeks. My sister and her husband were back and forth between home and the hospital, spending as much time as possible with their tiny baby, not eating at home. The gift cards we sent helped keep their costs down during that crazy and expensive time, and I felt good because it allowed me to bless them when I couldn’t be there in person.

Here is one of my favorite meal ministry recipes.  It’s vegetarian, mild, forgiving, easy, and generally pleases even kids and picky eaters.

Three Cheese Stuffed Shells:

12 jumbo pasta shells, boiled until tender
1 16 oz. package cottage cheese, drain off some of the liquid
½ cup shredded mozzarella
¼ cup grated Parmesan cheese
1 egg
Garlic salt to taste

Combine the egg, salt, and cheeses in a large bowl and fill each softened shell with the mixture. Arrange shells in a baking dish and pour a jar of pasta sauce over them. Cover and bake at 350 degrees for 30 minutes.

That’s it!  Super simple, warm, and comforting.  The recipe serves 4, and can easily be doubled for larger families. I deliver it (in a disposable aluminum pan, of course) with some bread, a fruit or veggie, and a treat like cookies for dessert.

At the bottom of this post is a free printable – some cute Meal Ministry labels and matching recipe cards. Feel free to print and share (they’ll work best on medium weight white cardstock).  I pinned a bunch of blog posts and recipes about Meal Ministry to the Food Shelf Friday Pinterest account.  Click HERE for those links, including more printable labels.

Above all an attitude of service and sensitivity are the keys to successfully blessing others with meal ministry. Now go out there and be a blessing! Remember if you have other ideas to add to this topic, or a great meal ministry recipe, share it in the comments!

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New Year’s Resolutions that Save Lives!

New Years Resolutions

Confession: I’m a bit of a cynic when it comes to resolutions. I rarely make them because I know no one keeps them. I used to work in a gym’s childcare center.  Every year in January and February the parking lot would be full. The locker room would be full. The childcare center would be full. And by March, resolutions faded and we were back to just the regulars. The regulars and staff hated the January crush of new members hogging all the space. We all knew that it was just a phase, and while it lasted the “resolutioners” were clogging up the system.

I have new resolutions this year, something that’s not about me, and I think that’s a plan that will help me make resolutions that stick. Plus, sharing them with you creates accountability, and that helps too (I hope!).

  1. Blog every week – 52 posts that keep me thinking about the hungry and researching solutions.
  2. Participate in Food Shelf Friday 50 of 52 weeks in 2015. If for some reason a Friday doesn’t work, I give myself permission to hold the FSF meal on another night of the week.  It’s not about the day of the week; it’s about simplifying for the sake of providing more food for my food shelf.
  3. Participate in packing meals at Feed My Starving Children 6 times in 2015. My family participates in their M&M tube fundraiser. We bought tubes of mini-M&Ms at FMSC, and after we enjoyed the chocolate, we hold on to the tubes and fill them with quarters.  Each tube holds $12.  We plan to go to FMSC when our three tubes are filled, but life happens and we always have to wait for everyone to get healthy, or for the stars to align on our schedules.  This year, I’m making it a priority.

How about you? What resolutions are you setting for 2015, and what do you do to make sure your resolutions stick better than the people at the gym?

30 “Not-So-Random” Acts of Kindness

acts of kindness chalkboard

Happy Food Shelf Friday everyone!  Tonight we had a lovely ladies’ holiday event at my church, and my husband and son helped themselves to leftovers.  So we didn’t have a typical FSF meal this week, but we did add a box of cereal and two cans of veggies to our stash of things to drop off at the food shelf.  With the boys eating leftovers tonight we spent virtually nothing on dinner, so that’s a bonus.  You know the old WWII adage: use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without.  Eating leftovers is a great way to “use it up”

This week I have compiled a list for you of 30 ways that you can bless others – “not-so-random acts of kindness”

1. Bake for friends, coworkers, your church staff, the teachers at your kids’s school, neighbors, etc.

2. Make blessing bags for the homeless – I promise a blog post on this idea soon, but the basic idea is bags with a variety of healthy, useful items like a toothbrush, healthy snacks, soap, etc. that you keep in your car and when you see someone in need, you have a bag ready to hand out that will hopefully make their day brighter by meeting some needs.  If you’re interested in this before I get a blog post together, there are lots of pins about it on Pinterest.

3. Leave a couple dollars in a library book about financial management, paying off debt, etc.  Add a kind note about how financial responsibility is a worthy endeavor and suggesting that your surprise cash is for a treat.

4. Pay for the car behind you at the drivethru.  This happened to me once, totally made my day.

5. During the holidays, participate in Operation Christmas Child and make up a shoebox of gifts to bless a kid in another part of the world.

6. Sponsor a child through Compassion International.  If you already do this…

7. Write to your sponsored child.  Send him or her some stickers, coloring pages, or something.  Again, there are whole Pinterest boards dedicated to Compassion letters.

8. Pack meals at a place like Feed My Starving Children or at a Kids Against Hunger event.

9. Attend a church work day or ask your pastor what you can do to help out.

10. Rake, mow, or shovel for someone else.  This is especially appreciated by the elderly and physically disabled.

11. Host a food drive.  This can be as simple as putting a collection box in your office and sending out an email to your coworkers, or you could plan a bigger event at your church or other organization.

12. Host a school supplies drive in the fall.  When I was a kid I really, really wanted the BIG box of name brand crayons with the sharpener in the back, but that just wasn’t necessary enough to make the budget.  We often used last year’s tattered supplies until they absolutely had to be replaced.  Today I honestly revel in back to school shopping.  I love to think about the kids making do with broken old crayons and half used notebooks who can have fresh, new, name-brand supplies because I spent a little extra.  This is another topic I’ll explore more fully in another post, so check back this fall!

13.  Host a diaper drive.  Thought I’d leave all the “drives” together on the list.  Did you know that diapers and baby wipes are not covered by EBT (food stamps)?  This shocked me.  Families in need often have to make expensive diapers go as far as possible, which means little ones sit in wet diapers too long and are more likely to get diaper rash.  There is an organization here in Minnesota that gathers and distributes diapers to help alleviate that.  It’s called The Diaper Drive.

14. Rescue a pet.  I know, I know.  That’s a BIG decision and a BIG commitment.  What I’m really suggesting is that if you’re thinking about a pet, consider adoption.

15. Volunteer at the local animal shelter.  Some shelters use volunteers to walk, feed, or play with the pets.  They also accept donations of pet food, cat litter, and treats.

16. Invite someone over for dinner.  You’re eating anyway, you might as well enjoy some good company too!

17. Make “Birthday Bags” for a local food shelf.  This is also a project that will someday have its own post (what is that, four now?).  Birthday bags are simply bags that contain a cake mix, frosting, candles, and maybe birthday plates or party gifts.  For families barely scraping by and depending on the food shelf just to put dinner on the table, birthdays are heartbreaking.  These people love their children, and a birthday bag lets them treat their kid’s birthday like the special occasion that it is while sparing them the additional financial stress.

18.  Leave quarters in a gumball machine.  Isn’t that a fun idea?  I found that online and I just loved it.  I can only imagine my son’s reaction to getting the coveted gumball without having to wear me down.

19. Send a random letter, email, or flowers to someone you love.  Who doesn’t like getting real mail, flowers, or just words of encouragement.

20. Write a letter to soldiers serving overseas.  Or missionaries serving overseas.  Or anyone who is far from home and family.

21. Pick up litter.  While you’re walking that rescue pet, take a bag and a glove along (you’ll probably need it for the dog anyway, but we won’t go into that…) and grab litter you see on the streets and yards.

22. Give away garden produce or homemade goodies.  Every summer my son and I go berry picking and spend a whole day together making and canning jam.  He doesn’t eat the stuff, and neither does my husband.  I keep a few jars to get me through the year and give away the rest.  People LOVE homemade preserves, bread, garden produce, etc. but sometimes don’t have the space or ability to make/grow their own.  I just ask my friends to give back the empty jars so I can keep giving away jam every year.

23. Tip BIG – service jobs are tough.  Especially when it’s busy and everyone wants your attention, and when it’s slow and you don’t make any money.  15-20% is standard, but once in a while it’s fun to go above and beyond and really bless someone who does a good job and works hard!

24. Feed a parking meter that’s about to expire. Sometimes we all need a few extra minutes grace…

25. Donate blood or blood plasma.

26. Hold the door, pull out a chair, say please and thank you with sincerity.

27. Go Christmas caroling.

28. Visit nursing home residents.

29. Read to a child or help an older kid study.

30. Pray, pray, pray – It seems like a small thing, but it moves mountains!

There are lots more, I’m sure!  I made a “Random Acts of Kindness” board on the FSF Pinterest page. Click HERE to check them out! Add your favorite in the comments!

Service Project Playlists

songs for serving

There is nothing like a good song to get you inspired and energized and to set the mood for your day’s adventures! Lately I’ve been building a playlist of songs that inspire me and my family when we do service projects. Here’s what we have so far…

1. “Do Something” by Mathew West – I love that opening part when he’s complaining about all the trouble in the world and he says, “God, why don’t you do something?” The answer, “I did. I created YOU!” It’s an awesome reminder that God put me on this earth to be a blessing to others.

2. “Hands and Feet” by Audio Adrenaline.  An oldie (2001, but I could swear it’s A LOT older), but a goodie.  Audio A still appeals to this recovering grunge gen-Xer.

3. “Kings and Queens” by the new incarnation of Audio Adrenaline (not the newest version of the band, but the brief period when Kevin Max Smith from DC Talk was the frontman).  This song is powerful, both lyrically and in presentation.  The music video is fun too.  It has the band and some Hatian kids having a snowball fight of sorts with color war powder.

4.  “Give me Your Eyes” by Brandon Heath – nothing inspires compassion like seeing the world through Jesus’s eyes. I don’t know about you, but I often miss opportunities to help others because I don’t think of it until it’s too late. So this song is like my prayer that I would see things how Jesus sees them: to notice needs and be moved to help.

5. “Fix my Eyes” by For King and Country.  This is my current favorite song. It’s upbeat and powerful. The chorus lists wonderful acts of service that we all know we should be doing if we’re actively living out faith the way Jesus taught, and then he closes with the clincher, “…above it all – Fix my eyes on YOU!” I love that reminder; it’s easy to burn out trying to be good or do good things when you take your eyes off God and see only the world’s troubles.

So that’s my little playlist.  I’m always looking to add songs as five go by too fast!

There are some good secular songs too for inspiring service:

“Imagine” by John Lennon

“We are the World”

Pretty much anything U2 has done in the last 25 years.

“Don’t Stop Believin'” by Journey

“Change the World” by Eric Clapton

“With a Little Help from my Friends” by Joe Cocker

“Help!” by the Beatles

“Volunteers” by Jefferson Airplane

The list goes on and on!  Add your favorite volunteering anthems in the comments!